Let’s talk about polyamory.
No, you’re still on the right site.
Polyamory is a relationship structure where people intentionally choose consensual intimate and emotional relationships with more than one person.
This is completely distinct from cheating (which is non-consensual) and also from dating (since the eventual goal there is to narrow it down to one partner).
Polyamory is not for everyone, but then again, the same could be said for monogamy. If you’ve ever thought that it’s a little arbitrary how you’re allowed to have lots of friends, but only one intimate partner, or if you’ve wondered why it’s okay to love all of your children and but not more than one partner, polyamory might have crossed your mind.
Polyamory does come with lots of extra challenges. It can bring up feelings of envy and jealousy. Moreover, when you are with a partner and they are very excited about a new person they’ve met, it can hurt, and bring up lots of fears.
It’s perfectly fine to desire a monogamous commitment.
And yet, before you ignore any of this discussion as being totally irrelevant, I invite you to ask yourself if any of this feels like it hits a nerve in one particular area. Perhaps you have felt a similar feeling of jealousy and frustration towards a particular object.
Perhaps you are feeling this towards a phone.
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